Change is coming

Change is coming, and job hunting will be one of those things. You have trepidation about the upcoming administration, and it can be three things. You didnt vote for Donald Trump. You might be a Californian who voted for Hillary Clinton. And you could be a descendant of immigrants. But lets go to the heart of the matter.The new year will be several weeks away. Youre still looking for your first job, youve been off the market for months. Theres no need to worry, as you need a new approach in job hunting. You hear it right. A rigid mindset will seal your doom (unless youre thinking of freelancing). Here are some tipsTheres more to a resume than Times New Roman. Technology is on a constant update, which means one thing. The traditional way of resume writing must be replaced with something else. The Internet is at your disposal, where you can find many ways to grab a recruiters attention. You can include the link to your personal website, where you can personalize your work experience an d interests. Dont make it too casual, though. You might consider graphics, where charts and tables will give recruiters a clearer picture of your career achievements. Its still about numbers.There are many ways to make valuable connections. You must have a large network, but its still about referrals. Have you attended meetups? Polish your communication skills, even making sure that youll be almost perfect in the art of timing. (A bad timing can happen at such events, and it can ruin everything.) Social media also plays an important role, where you might want to check out some blogs. It might be from a company that has a vacant position. And you seem to be the perfect candidate. Read it. Find out more about contact details. Get in touch. Twitter can give you leads.Show them you can hit the ground running. Training a new hire takes time and money, and you can put yourself at an advantage if you show the recruiter(s) that you meet the requirements without undergoing a great deal of tr aining. Look at the ad carefully. Review your resume (and update it if possible). Prepare for the interview. (You can ask a family member or a friend to play the part of a recruiter, if not provide you with constructive criticism.) You must believe that youre the right one.Do a research, where youll figure out your worth. You dont want to sell yourself short, but you dont want recruiters to have an impression that youre too vain. Know how much others are making in the saatkorn position (youre applying), and this might take some time. You might not have another chance, so look around. Dont be afraid to ask questions. And dont let fear beat you down.Dont forget to show your people skills. You may have the hard skills, but you must connect with the person on the other end of the table. Its not about making a first good impression, but rather showing the recruiter(s) that you know a great deal about communication and organization. And it can be a matter of a few gestures.Look at the tip s once more. Bring out your best business suit. Search for more ads.

10 Ways to Create the Relationship You Want

10 Ways to Create the Relationship You Want Anything worth doing is worth doing well, including dating.Were often told when were young that once we fall in love, things will all magically make sense, and that a soulmate relationship isnt one you have to work toward or spend time developing. Once you find your person, itll come easy. But this is far from true.Attraction may come without effort, but lasting love does leid. Making your relationship work for you requires effort, but the pay-off is mora than worth it. Here are 10 ways to make your existing relationship as fulfilling as possible or to set yourself up for the type of future dynamic you need.1. Determine your non-negotiables.Though compromising sometimes is a staple of any healthy relationship, know what your issues are your absolute deal breakers. For example, some people may know they dont want to date someone who lives over an hour away while otherbeis may only want to date people who work in a similar industry to them. Knowing where you draw the line before you set out to meet people is crucial to saving yourself time and heartache later.2. Evaluate past relationships.Just because a relationship ended doesnt mean it was a failure... if youve learned from it. Think about what caused problems in past relationships to determine what you should avoid moving forward. Understanding what went wrong in the past can help you build a stronger future with someone else.3. Fight smart.Dont approach conflicts as a you versus them situation approach conflicts as you together against the problem. When you have a disagreement with your partner, argue with the goal in mind of finding a solution, not hurting them.4. Work on your communication skills.If something bothers you, dont hide it. It can be easy to let seemingly small things slide, but eventually, frustrations add up and resentment is bred. Dont let yourself get caught up by ignoring what you truly want. Unless your partner happens to be a mind reader, the o nly way they can know that somethings bothering you is if you tell them.5. Make time for one another.Life can get busy. Conflicting schedules can lead to cancelled dates, and the person you care for can start to feel like a stranger. Set aside special time to see one another even if its getting breakfast at a diner on Saturday mornings or after work drinks. Scheduling time to be together shows that no matter how busy you both are, you both want to commit to being together.6. Create your own happiness.One of the biggest relationship killers is expecting another person to be responsible for ones happiness. This can cause people to become clingy or jealous. The best way to combat this is for both partners to find joy on their own. Dont be with one another because you need to choose to be together because you want to. Make time for yourself to do the things that you love alone.7. Discuss your goals together.Ensure that you both stay on the same page and are helping one another by talkin g about what you want to get out of life. This can help your bond grow stronger and keep you both in a distributions-mix where you know how to support one another.8. Prioritize honesty.Being honest can be difficult, but its a necessary part of building a strong relationship. If something bothers you, speaking up is the only way that your partner can attempt to fix it. If you make a mistake or have something on your mind, discuss it with your partner. Whats mentionable is manageable9. Celebrate the good.It can be easy to be caught up in a cycle of the mundane. Mentioning negative things can also become a staple, but its important to take a step back and acknowledge positive events with one another. This includes big events like anniversaries, but should also include celebrating individual successes with one another like earning promotions.10. Check in with one another.A simple how was your day really does go a long way. Knowing where one another are emotionally can help things go mor e smoothly. Understanding when your partner is most likely to be stressed out can help you know when they need extra support.--Kayla Heisler is an essayist and Pushcart Prize-nominated poet. She is an MFA candidate at Columbia University, and her work appears in New Yorks Best Emerging Poets 2017 anthology.